What would you do if when you first entered a girl’s bedroom you saw a dildo on her dressing table? Be shocked? Surprised? Intimidated?
There is no correct reaction but it has to be said that it’s not the first thing that most men would expect to see on the first visit to a lover’s boudoir.
There are all sorts of reason why you would not expect to see a sex toy on display and none of them have to deny the fact that women are sexual creatures too.
In some respects, they are the same reasons that many men still have the outdated notion that women who carry contraception when dating are easy as opposed to careful. Assuming that men should always take responsibility for contraception and STI protection instead of the truth, that the responsibility is shared, is the same as saying that men have sexual passion and women are simply there to provide an outlet for those male passions.
Of course, women tend to react negatively if the first thing they see when you take them home is your porn stash …
Women use sex toys, deal with it. This doesn’t mean they don’t like guys and it certainly means they don’t like sex. Far from it. If you haven’t got a partner a sex toy is a great way to have a little fun whether it’s a male sex toy or one for the ladies. That in itself is easy enough to accept for most people, in the absence of a real-life lover both sexes masturbate.
Despite what some cultures seem to want to tell you orgasms are a form of pleasure that is harmless, better than that it relieves stress and should be totally guilt free. Almost without exception, every human being has masturbated and they enjoyed it when they did.
Masturbating when you don’t have a partner is one thing, when you are in a relationship is another. So is masturbation bad in that context? No, it isn’t. Whether you do it with your partner or on your own so long as it’s a part of your sex life rather than a replacement for something that’s missing then keep knocking one out.
Now we’re down to the bones of the question, are you comfortable with your woman using a sex toy?
Nah, it’s not that simple. Take these scenarios:
- She’s using sex toys when you’re not round. Is it because you’re not fulfilling her? Maybe, but more likely she’s waiting for when you are around and her libido keeps insisting that she satisfies it while you aren’t.
- She wants to use sex toys when you’re together. Is it because you don’t give her all she needs to feel fulfilled? Nah. There are some women who need more than any man can give but that’s not the most likely reason, using sex toys together is a great way to get down and dirty together. You don’t have to groan like you’re in a porn movie, sex toys can make you feel intimate in the same way that sex itself does. You wouldn’t sleep with just anyone would you? In the same she isn’t going to let just anyone use a sex toy in bed with her. Enjoy it like she does.
- She wants you to video her using sex toys. Great! You can both enjoy this. Save it on your phone and enjoy again and again and again hehehe. You can both watch it and see what happens LOL. But don’t lose your phone and don’t send it to your friends.
If your girl is using sex toys and you don’t like it then you really have to ask yourself why. She’s not trying to replace you, she’s just horny and wasn’t that the girl you always wanted?